You need to consult with a family law attorney about what you can do to ensure these findings, including seeking a protective order, whether it is in your best interest to file formal charges in criminal court, and the effect of such findings.
Most family attorneys charge on an hourly basis; you might be able to find one who will meet with your for a couple of hours to review your pleadings and assist you for the limited purpose in drafting this language.
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You should definitely contact an experienced family law attorney in your area. A conviction and/or finding of family violence can directly affect a range of issues in a divorce case including conservatorship and possession and access of a child, property division, as well as spousal maintenance. Some of these may not apply to your case but you should seek legal counsel to determine what your legal options are as well as making sure your pleadings are done properly.
Hopefully you have an attorney you can rely upon for help. If not, I encourage you to speak with the local authorities including the county prosecuting attorney and seek to file charges against her. If they find your allegations credible perhaps they will file. Otherwise drop it as you will come off as seeking revenge.
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