Considering you did not do anything and did not send the email, it is doubtful that you would face any trouble for sending an email whatever consequences there may be. You had no intention of making any video in or out of NJ so you should be ok on that front. Not only that but no video was made. As to the rest, you may have a civil case against this person under several causes of action. I suggest consulting an attorney.
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As my colleague has indicated, if you are NOT a minor, then the mere transmission of email and nude pictures to adults does not sound like a crime for which you can be punished, however, as he has also indicated, there are some civil actions, and perhaps even criminal ones, that you can pursue against the hacker.
Obviously you should terminate the account and seek, if nothing more, an injunction against the hacker friend. In the future, I would, without making judgment, but noting the obvious, refrain from uploading pictures you do not wish circulated for you never know where they will wind-up.
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