How do I go about getting a same sex divorce in the US when we were married in Canada?

Asked almost 2 years ago - Asheville, NC

My partner and I were married in Canada. Now we want to get a divorce but both of us are US residents living in different states. Either state we live in does not recognize same sex marriage. I know the US was in the process of passing a bill to abolish this. I'm curious if there is a viable option available yet.

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  1. Howard M Lewis


    Contributor Level 20

    Answered . I am sorry that you are stuck in this position. However, I would urge you to chat with a local attorney in your state and see if you can still avail yourself of the probate court/family court to have a divorce. If you have established jurisdiciton in your state they may still divorce you or check with your spouses state and see if they have provisions for this. Worst case you can always move to a state that does acknowledge it, establish jurisdiction depending upon that states time periods and then do a divorce their although that is a tremendous amount of work, it depends how badly you want or need the divorce. take care.

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  2. Rebecca K. Watts

    Contributor Level 12

    Answered . There are some states that, although they do not recognize same sex marriage, have ruled that they will recognize it for the limited purpose of ending the marriage. The reasoning in the appeals courts has been that even if the state does not recognize same sex marriage as an ongoing relationship, they can recognize it to terminate it because public policy of the state is against the marriage. Now that North Carolina has Amendment One, I do not think that is an argument that can be used here for you to get a divorce. Your partner can check with an attorney in the state he or she lives in and see if an attorney there thinks that argument would work in that state.

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Divorce is the process of formally ending a marriage. Divorces may be jointly agreed upon, resolved by negotiation, or decided in court.

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