File a petition to establish paternity. That will require a response from the woman. The woman will have to either admit or deny that you are the father. If she denies that you are the father then the court can order that a DNA test occur. Ultimately, the court would establish whether you are the legal father or not (currently the husband is the putative father) and that would establish your rights and responsibilities.
This is not to be considered legal advice nor does an attorney-client relationship exist.
I agree with the other attorney and ask what type of injunctions do you have against each other? if it is no contact as a result of domestic violence, and you pursue your rights, a third party will be required to intervene for time sharing appointments. And child support will also be set once paternity is established.
This communication is not intended to create an attorney/client relationship. It is always recommended you consult an attorney in person to discuss your case. Leonore M. Greller, Esq. is a Supreme Court Certified Civil Circuit and Family Mediator and a Qualified Residential Mortgage Foreclosure Mediator and Arbitrator.