I feel like my lawyer did not listen to my needs I wanted a separation & the papers my husband received say dissolution. We really just want to stop the whole thing, but my lawyer thinks it is a bad decision. How can I stop him from being in control of this situation, with out completely making him no longer want to deal with me, if I need him down the line.
No one can analyse how your attorney will "feel" in the future. You have a right to dismiss your dissolution. Your attorney has an obligation to give you good advice, but you have the right to disagree and then the attorney has the obligation to follow your instructions.
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If your lawyer doesn't listen to your needs or communications, you should substitute your lawyer out. You can always retain another attorney who listens to your needs and communications in the future, if you need to. If your husband hasn't responded to the Petition, you can unilaterally dismiss the divorce case (do it without prejudice). If your husband has responded to the Petition, both sides must sign the Request for Dismissal. If you and your husband agree that the case should be dismissed, direct your attorney to prepare and file the Request for Dismissal (obtaining your husband's and/or his attorney's signature if required). If your attorney refuses to follow your direction, ask your attorney to substitute out and substitute you in to represent yourself, and then you can prepare, sign, circulate (if necessary), and file the Request for Dismissal.
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