You seem like you need help, financially and with child rearing. Is the prosecuting attorney participating in this case? You said paternity has been established, but you didn't say how. Do you have a court order or did he file an affidavit of parentage? You cannot force a father to participate in a child's life. Unfortunately, it is surprising how many parents will step up to the plate to get overnights to reduce their child support. Several factors are considered when determining child support. One of the most important factors is the number of overnights each parent has with a child. Child care is also taken into consideration so you must bring verification of what you are paying to court. If he doesn't have a legal job, the court can impute income. I would suggest speaking to counsel. Depending on the type of hearing you have tomorrow, the court may try to resolve the child support issue tomorrow. Be mindful of what you consent to because you have a right to prove he makes more than he tells the court. I would also suggest that you speak to a professional - attorney or therapist - on how to manage the difficulties of being a single parent. There is help out there. Best wishes.
Hearing or meeting with an investigator? You need an attorney to present and prove your case.
As for forcing him to take parenting time, it can be ordered but if he does not take it the court simply increases the support and changes the order. Generally it will not, because it cannot, force paternal involvement.
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