My son has witnessed his mother be abused by her boyfriend. She was told to go to a women's home or she would lose her son. The state would not turn him over to me because she has full legal custody of him. I have in the past two years received papers from the county stating she was under investigation for child neglect. He has no structure, no routine, and no rules with his mother. She lets him do whatever so she doesn't have to listen to him. He has recently been expelled from school for hitting and kicking teachers/other students. His IEP states he needs to go to a school that has the resources to help with his anger. He told me he doesn't want to go to any school in the state he lives in. So basically he wants to live with me and not his mother. What can I do? I live in Lake Mills, IA