the reason the state of nj won't send it to me is because i do not know my mother's maiden name and it is apparently on the death cert. i am estranged from other family and they refuse to tell me what she died of and where she is buried. that's the only reason i want a copy of the death cert. is there a legal way to obtain this without having that one piece of info?
Estate Planning Attorney
You haven't indicated what you need the death certificate for, so, I assume you would only require a copy, and not an original. If this is the case, there may be a few work-arounds. If you know when she died, where she died, her DOB, SS# and other particulars, you should certainly be able to obtain without reciting her maiden name.
Was there a probate of her estate? Check with the register in probate for the county where she resided when she passed to see the case file. A copy of the death certificate should be included in the record.
Search online. With electronic document availabilty expanding into public records, there are various sites, such as archives.com that offer vital records searches which may net the document you need.
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Estate Planning Attorney
Death certificates are public records. If you know the town in which she died, you can seek it from the Registrar of Vital Statistics. If that doesn't work, you should be able to compel the production of one by getting an order from the county probate court.
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Real Estate Attorney
The Department of Vital Statistics should be able to help you. However, if they won't, try to find the website of the local newspaper where she lived when she died and search the obituaries. Usually, there is a very short obituary published even if it is not submitted or written by the family.
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