My best advice is for you to talk to a local family law attorney. You are seeking very specific advice that we can't give you over a public forum. Generally speaking, property AND debt are equally divided among the parties. There are many factors to consider when dividing property. You don't just get the property. You are also entitled to half of the debt. So depending on your property vs. debt the answer to your question could be very different. Also, there are special forms that must be executed before you may get any funds from the pension, IRA, etc. I wouldn't count on getting any of these funds before the divorce is finalized. Speak to an attorney as soon as possible.
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As a general rule you are entitled to half of the marital portion of his pension. Understand that you may or may not get the ACTUAL pension money. There may be offsets and you could take other assets instead. You can have the pension valued to determine its present value. IF you do that, and find that your husbands equity in the house is near that same number, and if both of you agree, you can offset those values. OR if he has cash on hand to buy you out, likely at a discount you could do that as well. There are MANY different options, depending on your assets and debts.
IF you divide the pension, there is a document called a QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order) that is used to divide the pension interest (assuming this is a private company, and not the state). Depending who prepares these, they may cost upwards of $400 to prepare.
As to your other investments, YES, all marital assets are generally divided in half. This is not easy. Half is never HALF. Fair just and equitable is the goal. Understand that any assets you receive will be rolled over to you, and YOU will then need to take the penalties on them if you intend on spending that money now.
You NEED to speak to an attorney now for more information.
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The part of the pension that was accumulated during the divorce is a marital asset to be divided equally unless there are other issues. You may not be able to receive it until he retires, or you may be able to roll over your half once you have a decree. It depends on the plan. IRA's and stocks accumulated during the marriage also are considered marital assets to be evenly divided. You may want to roll the IRA's over to avoid paying tax on them right away.
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