It is not necessarily too late for her to say that her boyfriend stole the car. Should the matter reach court, the driver's girlfriend would have the burden of proving that she had no knowledge he was operating her vehicle and that the vehicle was in fact stolen. It is unlikely she can prove that she had no knowledge that he was operating the vehicle since she showed up at the scene with proof of insurance. Your wife should retain a local accident lawyer who can put pre-suit pressure on the insurer to provide coverage, and file suit if necessary. It is more or less an industry standard to provide free consultations, so go meet with an attorney and ask these and any other questions you may have.
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I have seen this situation before, and the argument that the boyfriend "stole" the car does not usually hold water. The odds that he stole her car without her knowledge are slim, particularly if she did not report it to police. Even if he did steal it, if an attorney could establish that he used her car before, that could refute this argument. The insurance attached to the automobile that caused the accident would be primary and should cover this loss. I would retain an attorney right away to deal with the insurance company.
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