My ex and I are on good terms. This, our 2nd attempt to get a Q'd DRO, her current atty is telling me that I need to designate now, years before I retire, which Surviving Spouse Option I wish to select.
First of all, I think he's wrong in saying that I have to decide anything now, and that I need to spousal-anything other than what's in our PSA, which has her receiving 30%.
I'm well-read on the Separate Interest and Shared Payment approaches and I don't see any such requirement or implication.
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