I think you will not find the details you need here. You have serious issues in front of you that are going to require an attorney help you. If you do it yourself, I have a feeling something important is going to slip through the cracks.
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So it looks like you are living the 21st century dream: embroiled in support/custody litigation. You have serious accusations mixed in and I am sure the kids are traumatized. With school looming on the horizon, trouble is your companion. Sounds miserable.
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There are two separate situations at play in your question. One is the cut off of child support, and the financial crisis it has caused you. You are entitled to proceed on your upward mod and violation petitions. Unfortunately, the court does not always move as quickly as litigants might like in those situations.
A separate and distinct issue is the safety of the child during visits. If the case is as you've described, then you can file a petition to suspend visits and ask for an investigation of his home. You never want to send your child to a home where there is serious risk to the child's safety. Be very careful, however. You should never make allegations just because the father is not paying child support. He will raise the issue that your seeking to suspend his visits is solely based on the child support matter. Also, once CPS is involved, they investigate everyone. That means that if you have any child protective issues, it will also be brought to the court's attention. Children often end up in foster care when one parent points the finger at the other---without realizing that they too will be investigated.
Good luck with everything.