I'm not sure by your post what your question is.
However, if the divorce decree was based upon the judge's findings as to fact and law you will likely need to go back to the same Court in North Carolina to pursue a contempt action against your ex-husband.
If the retirement provisions were based on a contractual settlement between you and your ex-husband you may be able to enforce it through a breach of contract action in Ohio, but you should check with an attorney in Ohio to ensure that Ohio law allows for personal jurisdiction over your ex-husband in this situation.
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There is a lot more information needed. Did your divorce decree incorporate a military pension division order? Was the decree and/or the military pension division order submitted to DFAS with a DD Form 2293? Were you and your ex-husband married to each other for at least ten years during his creditable military service? Has DFAS ruled on your application? An Ohio attorney like myself can review the portion of your decree that gives you a share of your ex-husband's military pension and determine whether or not the requirements are met for DFAS to pay your share directly. If not, you may need to go back to the court in North Carolina to seek a clarifying order and, perhaps, pursue a contempt action. Since you are not in Ohio, you may want an Ohio attorney to review your situation to see if you can enforce the alimony obligation in Ohio under the Uniform Interstate Family Support Act..
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