Does New York allow a child to decide where they want to live when they get a certain age? If so, what age?

My daughter is seven and lives with her father. Her therapist here says that she needs to be with her mother, but the judge ruled against it. Can she decide where she wants to live when she gets older? If so, how old until she can?

Hamburg, NY -

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Howard M Lewis

Howard M Lewis

Family Law Attorney - Framingham, MA
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NY law does not specify a specific age. The court will usually consider a child's level of maturity, which can vary on a case by case basis. Typically, courts will consider a child's wishes around the age of 12 or 13. Best of luck.

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Douglas Shaun Kepanis

Douglas Shaun Kepanis

Family Law Attorney - New York, NY
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The older a child gets, the more the Court will listen to them, through their law guardian. In my experience, it is around when they turn 12 or 13 that the Court actually takes a listen to their desires.
Some states legislate an actual age but not in NY.

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Maria C. Tebano

Maria C. Tebano

Family Law Attorney - Newtonville, NY
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It really depends on the maturity of the child. The child's preference can be taken into consideration at any age, but that is merely one factor the court will consider. The standard that the court applies is what is in the child's best interest.

Jayson Lutzky

Jayson Lutzky

Child Custody Lawyer - Bronx, NY
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No set rule in NYS. Child will be appointed an attorney by the court to represent the child in a custody dispute, depending on the child's age.

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