He says he does not need to pay because our situation is "equal time spent". Our daughter visits him every other weekend, she sometimes goes to his house after school and stays for dinner--then I pick her up, and in the last two years he has paid for most of her activities. Does that deem us "SHARED" custody? She sleeps every night at my house, I feed her breakfast, lunch, dinner. I pay rent and bills---he lives with his family and pays NO BILLS.