If you are the executor of an estate you should seek legal representation, especially if you are already having issues. To answer your question (I am not a NY attorney) every state I know of requires that notice of the probate of the will be given to BENEFICIARIES and HEIRS AT LAW (assuming no spouse the kids would be heirs at law). In any event, once you probate the will it will be public record and he can obtain a copy of it so there is probably no reason not to give him a copy but I would seek a NY attorney (assuming a NY estate) for advice.
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Well, it really shouldn't be a problem to you if you give him a copy. The original is normally filed with the court and, once filed, anyone can get a copy.
With that said, if you anticipate a problem, you should consult with a local probate attorney for advice that is specific to your situation. Best wishes!
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If you are the executor and you have the original copy of the Will you have a duty to lodge it with the court. There is generally a penalty if you fail to file it. Whether a formal probate is opened is another matter and depends upon the size of the estate, but the potential penalty is still there. One of the purposes of probate is to prove that the document that is filed with the court is in fact the LAST Will and Testament and not just the next to the last Will and Testament. When it is filed the law usually requires that a copy be sent out to those who would inherit if there is no Will so they can challenge it.
Since you are the executor and hold the original will you must file it with the court-however you should hire an attorney to help you do so. New York Probate court can be somewhat complicated and you should not try to navigate it without professional legal advice.
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