Do fathers with disabilities have any chance in a custody case against normal mothers with no problems?

Asked over 1 year ago - Louisville, KY

Are you aware of any specific cases where a father with disabilities got custody from a normal mother of an 11-year-old? Or is it silly to even ask such a question, because there's no chance in hell?

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It seems like a reasonable assumption that a disabled father with limited resources would be stupidly wasting those resources fighting for custody against a normal mother. The other answers should clarify why it might not be stupid after all. If they don't, they're not really answering the question. Some fights aren't worth fighting because they aren't winnable, regardless of how unfair the situation is. Wouldn't a wise father save his money to buy stuff for his child instead of foolishly wasting it on an unwinnable battle?

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    Answered . It depends on how much the disability will have an effect on your ability to care for the child. The courts will consider all factors to determine what is in the best interest of the child. Custody disputes are very complicated so you should consult with a family law attorney immediately.

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    Answered . It's not silly. The court will give great weight to the child's wishes if the child is over 12. However, the standard for custody is the "best interest of the child," and some more statutory factors. Obviously the disability may be considered by the Court if it is relevant to your ability to care for the child. But it is not a closed and shut case. You should speak with an attorney.

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    Answered . You need to consult with a local attorney. The first thing they should do is explain the difference between custody and parenting time. There is a brief description in section 5 of my publication "What to expect during your Kentucky divorce." Whether you are going through a divorce or not, the section on custody and parenting time is the same.

    Knowing that custody is a right to make decisions and NOT an allocation of time is important. Whether this is a physical or mental disability makes a huge difference. A physical disability should have no effect on a persons ability to be make decisions about where a child goes to school, what medical treatment they receive, their religious affiliation, etc.. If it is a physical disability and mom is fit, Joint custody is a likely outcome. If it is a physical disability and mom is not fit Sole custody is realistic. A mental disability you would need discuss it in great detail with your attorney to determine the effect it will have on your case. Some are very serious while others, not so much.

    If you are talking about parenting time (not custody), you will need to discuss this with an attorney. As the other answers indicate, the test is the best interest of the child and you can find the factors the court considers in section 2 of KRS 403.270 (a link is attached below). In addition to the factors in KRS 403.270 section 2, the type of disability, limitations it creates, sex of the child, child's interests/activities, the Judge, mother's schedule/limitations, etc. all must be considered.

    There are several good family attorneys in Jefferson County and many do not charge for initial consultations. You should contact an attorney and get advice based on the specifics of your case. Best of luck.

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    Answered . each case a unique situation--best interest of the child is the center of gravity.


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