I want to get a divorce because I suspect my husband of infidelity (along with some other reasons). My husband doesn't know yet. Would it be to my benefit to obtain the proof (ie. hire a PI) before letting him know and then proceed with the divorce afterwards? Does having this proof effect alimony payments and/or give the attorney certain leverage? Also, I am currently a homemaker, but will probably have to work after the divorce. Should I wait to get a job until after the divorce goes through or start finding a job now? How does this effect the alimony/child support amounts granted?