Divorce

New York State remains the ONLY state in the US where the Courts will not grant a no-fault (e.g. for irreconcilable differences) divorce. THis, however, does not leave you without options. You may file for divorce on the grounds of adultery or cruel and inhuman conduct. A seasoned matrimonial attorney should be able to draft a complaint taking most circumstances and characterizing them as "cruel and inhuman" conduct. Another option is to file for legal separation on the same grounds. Once you have a legal separation, you can seek a divorce a year later. Finally, if all else fails, you could simply move to another state for a sufficient period of time to establish residency, and obtain a divorce there. There may be other ways to put some pressure on her to agree to the divorce, depending on your situation. Without a divorce, the Court cannot divide the marital assets. This may provide you with some bargaining leverage to gain her cooperation and consent to the divorce. I recommend you meet with an attorney to discuss the details of your particular case. Good luck.