If she will not agree or cooperate, you will need to get a court order for the relief I feel you are most definitely entitled to. In order to do that you will need to get a hearing set in court. I will suggest also that you hire an attorney to protect your interests and enforce an equal division of the community debt. I would not recommend you go to court without an attorney. I offer a free consultation if you have further questions at 818-646-5300.
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I am sorry you are going through this. She is responsible for 1/2 of the community debt, even if she is trying to be an ostrich in the matter and keep her head in the sand. I really think you need to find an attorney to advise you. You have community property issues that need to be resolved tied with potential spousal support issues and innocent spouse tax issues. Thank goodness you do not have kids with her!!!
Here is my typical verbiage in hiring an attorney:
In hiring an attorney, everything is negotiable. Attorneys do offer payment options, but that does not normally include monthly payments. Some offer hourly rates with a retainer. Others offer flat fee rates. Some others offer document preparation. However, payment plans don't work because after the case is over, the former attorney is the last to be paid. However, every thing is negotiable.
Best of luck to you
She would be required to normally pay the taxes that are her CP responsibility. Why hasn't a Request For Default been filed? Why hasn't the matter been set for trial? If you are doing this yourself, then it appears that you need help with the procedurual matters and it appears you need help to set the matter for completion.
I would not go any further through this process without hiring an attorney. There seems to be a lot of assets and liability at stake. Have someone familiar with the process fight for you. There are certain procedural steps that need to be taken when one party is nonresponsive. An attorney will take care of those for you. Good luck.
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