Credit Card/Identity Theft?

There needs to be more information provided and you need to speak to someone to work through your desires. If this is joint debt and it is going to be paid with joint funds, it there is an issue in your relationship then there is much to be done.
Unfortunately, in the small space provided for questions one is unable to get a full background of the matter. In the situations such as you are explaining you should immediately seek the counsel of a capable attorney that practices in this area of law or if you cannot afford an attorney, you should seek a social service organization in your area. This answer is general in nature and does not form an attorney client relationship. If you would like to get more information on this topic or to establish an attorney client relationship please contacts my office.
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