Child support, legal marriage , safety of children

You have to follow the order until it is modified. Have your lawyer file for a modification in court to reflect the actual daycare expenses and health insurance premiums. Your ex cannot change the location of the visitation if it is specified in the court order. You can insist that he follow the order and refuse to have visitation elsewhere, but keep in mind, if you are seen as being unreasonable, the judge might not be happy when you go for a modification.

As for safety, you weren't specific enough. If the children really are unsafe, than it's your job as a parent to prevent from being unsafe. However, once again, I've seen many situations where parents (usually moms) say that the dad is being unsafe when in reality the mom is just being over protective and difficult because she no longer likes or trusts the father. You need to look long and hard at what your issues are. If it really is a safety issue, bring it to the attention of the court. If not, just forget it, as you are never going to trust your ex fully because of the breakdown of your marriage.

If this sounds a little harsh, I don't mean it to be, but you'd be much better off not going to court, wasting money and irritating the judge over something that is only bothersome to you. Check with your lawyer and see what they think of your chances for a modification. Ask them for an objective evaluation than follow their advice. Good luck to you.