One his papers are still valid if you did not file for divorce and a default means you never answered his papers. Did you default him? Do not expect the court to put together the two files until it is brought to their attention. I recommend hiring an attorney.
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Something is missing -- you know he filed for custody on 7/15/13, and you have seen those papers because you know you had only 20 days to respond. Yet you do not believe you were served? That makes no sense. It sounds like he is claiming you were served (he just may not have filed in his actual proof of service until later) and now has taken your default. If a default has been entered against you, then you need to immediately file a motion to have that set aside so you can respond to his custody papers and proceed in normal course. Do not ignore his custody case and think your TPO will override it -- the TPO is only temporary, even if you are successful in having it extended. As to his violations of the TPO, make sure you report each and every one to the police. They may not do anything about a few minor violations here and there, but they will do something if they have formal reports of repeated violations. Ultimately you really need to go sit down with an attorney for a consultation to understand how all of this works, and what you should be doing in going forward.
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