Can my new boyfriend sleeping over affect custody?

Asked over 2 years ago - New York, NY

I have a seven year old son with my ex. I recently started a new relationship with a man who is a NYC Paramedic and I work and am a full time student. On the nights when my son is with his father I like to either spend the night with my new boyfriend or sometimes depending on work he spends the night with me. Can my ex use that to take full custody even though my son isn't home?

Attorney answers (3)

  1. Mary Katherine Brown


    Contributor Level 20

    Answered . No, especially if the sleepovers do not occur when you son is at home. You are allowed to have a life after even after you become a single parent. Moreover, if you use good judgment and always keep the child's best interests paramount, you can live a normal life :-) If anyone says you cannot, have the number of a good attorney handy and you'll be fine. Otherwise, don't worry. Good luck!

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  2. Jeffrey Bruce Gold


    Contributor Level 19

    Answered . I agree with the prior poster. This is a non issue so long as the sleepovers do not occur when your son is there.

  3. Michael J Corbin

    Contributor Level 20


    Lawyer agrees

    Answered . If you are discrete and NEVER have the child around when you are with your boyfriend, then there shouldn't be a problem.

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