Can my husband keep house & our adopted kids and ask me to leave?

Spokane, WA Viewed 25 times. Posted 18 days ago in Family

We have 4 special needs children adopted through foster care. I am the primary caregiver, and he works full-time. We've been married for almost 7 years; the kids are 3, 2, 1, & 10 months. For most of our relationship my husband has been verbally and emotionally abusive, and avoids spending time with me or the kids. Now that I want a divorce and plan to reestablish a relationship with an old boyfriend, he wants to keep 2 of the kids and the house and send me packing with nothing but my clothes and the 2 kids' adoption subsidies (1143/mo). I would still come over and take care of the kids while he was working. Is this a stupid thing for me to agree to? I don't want to fight for months in court, but I don't want to split the kids up and give 2 a part-time mommy! Would a judge agree?

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There really is no equity in the house, as we just bought it last year. I'm more worried about separating the kids and moving 2 into a new, unfamiliar home. One has serious issues with routine and continuity.

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Shawn B Alexander

This attorney is licensed in Washington. Posted 18 days ago.

You will need to hire a family law attorney before agreeing to anything one-sided, you are right that the fight is never worth results but fair is fair. Your equity in the house needs to be acknoweldged.
Good Luck and God Bless