Can my husband force me to work even if he promised I could be a stay at home mom?

Asked over 2 years ago - Weston, MA

I helped my husband through college and then we decide he would work, while I was at home with our 2 year old, now he wants me to work?

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  1. Howard M Lewis

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    Answered . I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time. He cannot force you to do anything you don't want to do, you are married you are not his property. However, he can suggest that you bring some money into the marital estate and if you refuse then you have situation that requires someone to make a decision or collaborate. The only person that can force you to do anything is the judge and he/she can attribute income to you but that does not mean you have to work if you are the primary caretaker of the child and have full custody. Hope that helps.

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  2. E. Alexandra Golden

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    Answered . Frankly, I think the two of you would benefit from a marriage counselor -- it sounds like there are a number of issues concerning money and control which need to be aired out with the guidance of a professional. A therapist is usually a lot less expensive than a divorce lawyer.

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  3. Henry Lebensbaum

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    Answered . Personally, you two have a problem when you interpret request for contribution as force.

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  4. John Addison Vos

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    Answered . Nobody is a slave. But if your family needs money, do you have an option? If you filed for divorce, could be that you are entitled to support for helping him with school. Sounds to me like you two need to sit down and work all this out, not file for divorce - a counselor or mediator can help in this situation.

    But the short answer to you short question is no, nobody can make you do anything.

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  5. Christopher P Norris

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    Answered . No one in a marriage can force another to work outside the home. If there is a divorce the issue of you working will come into play t some point but it doesn't sound like you are at that point currently. Financial troubles seem to break more marriages apart than infidelity. You should discuss his reasons why he thinks you should reenter the work force and see if a compromise of reducing expenses, some sort of income, or continuing with the current plan is best. You are his partner and not his subordinate.

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  6. Matthew Stuart Cochran

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    Answered . Legally your husband can't force you to do anything. Obviously if you're having a difficult time financially he may suggest that you work to help alleviate some of the burden but no, he can't make you get a job. Financial trouble can put a great deal of strain on a marriage so perhaps you and your husband should sit down and take a look at your situation and what could be done to improve it. This doesn't seem like the type of problem you need to see a lawyer about at this point, see if you two can work it out on your own. Good luck to you and your husband.

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