My now ex bought a plane ticket for me to come visit him, however, in between the time of purchase and now he's been rather mean, a bit of a liar and in general not someone I wish to date or even be around anymore. He's threatened to sue me for the cost of the ticket when he did not require me to pay him back and considered it a gift when we were together. Can he really sue me? Also, he's been sending me harassing emails and texts, how hard is it to get a restraining order?
A gift is a gift, and a gift giver can't transform that gift into a loan just because their feelings changed.
You don't need a restraining order for electronic harassment if you just use your phone's and computer's block and filter functions for his harassing emails and texts. Keep them in a file where you don't have to look at them but you'll have evidence if you do want to pursue some legal action. Sometimes the best strategy is just to ignore someone if they're seeking attention and you stop providing it. Eventually, they'll stop.
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Employment / Labor Attorney
A gift is a gift. However, can you
show or prove it was a gift? If it
is a gift . . . you owe him nothing!
If he sues you, countersue him
for filing a frivolous lawsuit and
for the harrassment. What does
the harrassment consist of, trying
to collect the alleged debt? Keep
copies of the emails/texts in case
you need as evidence in court. If
you need to . . . file for a PPO at
the court, It's not hard and you
can do it without an attorney.
Let him explain to the judge his
emails/texts to you once you
show them to the judge! You
can also bring your own
witnesses to bolster your case.
Talk to a local attorney to send
ex a 'cease and desist' letter.
It'll cost you $75-90.00 but
might stop ex from bothering
you anymore. Good luck.
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Family Law Attorney
Yes your ex can sue you for the plane ticket. That's never a question (anyone can sue for anything). The real question is whether or not he would win. And the answer is - it depends on if the court agrees that it was a gift. He would have to be able to show the court that there was an expectation of the cost being returned OR the court would have to agree that the fact that you no longer intend to visit (the original reason for the gift) does not create a right of reimbursement. It is not possible to tell you an outcome with certainty since it depends on what the judge sees and hears, and how the judge interprets it.
To obtain a restraining order, you must be able to show a reasonable apprehension for your safety. Thus, it will depend on the frequency and tone of the emails and text messages.
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