If I have proof that she lured him under falled pretenses (faking physical abuse, illness, etc.) Is that a crime?
Talk to a lawyer about "alienation of affections." But not all states have this.
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Contact an attorney familiar with matrimonial law; is my suggestion.
I suggest that you consult with a divorce attorney. You probably do not have a claim for alienation of affections.
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Attorneys from other states probably know the law in their states.
In Colorado you cannot sue anyone for stealing your husband. The old "alienation of affection" laws have been repealed in almost every state. Your remedy is to either reconcile with your Husband, or divorce him.
In Colorado we also do not have any way to plead that he's a low down dirty scumbag who runs around on you. In Colorado the reason for the divorce is irrelevant. A person can have any reason or no reason, but the court doesn't care about the reason.
Finally, however, the place that his behavior comes up is with payment to you of maintenance and with regard to child support and parenting time. Depending on the behavior, and how bad it is for kids, and whether the kids were around, there may be issues which will be relevant to the divorce.
I suggest an hour with a good divorce attorney to understand your rights, options and to get a good recommendation as to how to proceed.
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