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Can I sue my father for emotional and physical abuse?

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I am a 19 year old female, a senior in high school. I live with my father and brother (who is 16) Yesterday my father punched me after a argument (this is the first time he's hit me since I turned into an adult) my brother witnessed it, and my friend witnessed it after the fact. I took pictures of the injury. My friend also witnessed him verbally and emotionally abusing me, which happens often. I was afraid to call the police because I didn't want my brother to go to foster care, and I was unsure if they would believe me. I want to know if I can sue for emotional and physical abuse , or criminal case that won't make my brother go to foster care, would I be allowed to care for him, I have a job, but it doesn't pay a lot. Do I have any sort of case against him? Please help

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  1. You don't state if there is a mother involved. You are not protecting your brother if your father has become this violent. From past experience I can only tell you that it gets worse never better. Yes you can sue in a civil suit, but I recommend filing a criminal complaint. As for your brother, the state authorities will have to deal with the issue. I doubt you will be given custody of him, but that is dependent on many other factors.
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  2. I agree with both of my collegues. Physical assault and emotional abuse are much more urgent matters to addrerss then whether you can file a lawsuit. Get advice from an abuser or domestic violence counselor as suggested by my collegue, this will assist you in dealing with the abuse you have suffered. The simple act of you filing a criminal complaint under the Domestic Violence Act can have very strong impacts on the abuser. Any such complaint will likely result in a least short -term incarceration for the abuser, the issuance of a restraining order on the abuser, and mandatory anger management couseling for the abuser. Get the counseling (perhaps your brother needs it too). Lastly, I agree with my collegues that you cannot dictate what you are going to do to protect yourself, by concerns as to whether the Court will award you custody of your brother. Good luck.

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