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Can I sue my ex boyfriend for slandering/libeled , invasion of privacy and defamation ?

New York, NY |

My ex boyfriend has been harassing me. I called the cops but they couldn't do anything because it wasn't harassing enough. Now he's been spreading lies accusing me of drug dealing. He also shared a personal information about me which I told him not to tell anyone. He's been contacting my friends and sending them private pictures of me which were taken without my consent.

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  1. How were the pictures taken without your consent? Did he have a camera hidden? Or were they taken while you were asleep? If those were the cases then you could have a suit for those pictures. Same with the defamation claims though, you can only recover from him what he has. Unless he has assets and bank accounts with cash this may not be worth pursuing from your end. A case like this would typically only be taken on an hourly basis and would require a retainer of between $5,000 to $10,000. Try to gather as much proof of what he is doing from your friends and contact an attorney if you think you want to pursue it. Best of luck.

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  2. You can sue him for defemation and maybe a civil rights violation but does he have signficant assets to collect a judgment from? Given that he won't have insurance to cover this, I doubt a lawyer will take the case on contigency so you would have to pay a lawyer by the hour.

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  3. It sounds like you may have a valid claim. Contact a local attorney to move forward. Whether the lawyer will take the case on a contingency fee basis will be something to be discussed at that meeting and depends upon a number of factors.

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  4. You can certainly have a local lawyer investigate. Avvo has a terrific "find a lawyer" tool to find a lawyer close to your home.