Is there a divorce pending? DO NOT AGREE TO ANYTHING YOU DO NOT WANT AGREE TO. You need a new lawyer who will help protect you and your children. You should talk to a lawyer immediately about a restraining order against your husband. You need to have someone either stay with you in your home or leave your home to stay with someone until you get the protection from the court you need. He is an abusive husband and you need to protect yourself and your children. If your ex husband learns of this it could be grounds for hime to file to get custody of your children. PLEASE seek help from an attorney ASAP!!!!!!
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Shared Parenting is an option, not a guarantee. It must be requested by at least one party, and it is in Court's discretion to determine if it is appropriate. I've known of cases where a Judge has declined Shared Parenting on the basis that only one party asked for it (presuming that because the parties can't agree on this designation, they wouldn't be able to agree on parenting issues). All of that being said, the answer to your question is YES. You can refuse to enter into a Shared Parenting plan. As mentioned by the first response, it would be best for you to contact an attorney to discuss this, as well as the other issues you mentioned. And given the nature of the relationship, I would similarly advise contacting counsel soon.
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