I am not legally separated or divorced. I have not been with him since 2005 and I do not want my husband to have any say so if something should unexpectedly happen to me. I want my daughters to have say so if something should happen to me, and I do not want him to have what little I have as far as personal belongings.
Yes, you may designate anyone you choose (a) to be contacted under your Living Will, or (b) to serve as an Agent under a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care. There are some blank lines on the standard POA form that you could use to make an affirmative statement that you are legally married but estranged from your husband and do not want him to have anything to do with your medical decision-making. You should not do this, however, without an knowledgeable attorney's help.
There are other issues as well: If you are working or have any sort of work-related benefits or social security, you need to make sure you have a financial power of attorney that gives someone else authority over those accounts. Self-help in this area usually causes problems, so I would advise you to consult with an expert estate planning or elder law attorney for help.
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Absolutely, and this is one if the most appropriate situations to do so. Feel free to call or email if you would like to chat more.
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