I am sorry to hear about your situation. Both you and your husband share custody of your children so if you both agree you have no problem. However, if your husband does not agree you would have to get a court order to stop the visitation.
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If you and your husband cannot come to an arrangement regarding the mother-in-law, any legal action you attempt to take will likely (should be no surprise here) have a dramatic impact on your marriage circumstances--maybe to a degree more so than the mother-in-laws statements did.
(1) re-engage with your husband on the matter and attempt to work out an arrangement–[this is the most critical part, if this can’t be done, most of your other options are consigned to low probabilities of success]
(2) speak directly with your mother in law--point out the disruptive nature of her comments and request she stay within her grandma box.
(3) consider family counseling with a therapist/psychologist for you and your husband (covered by many insurance policies)
If all else fails, take Attorney Greenburg’s advice and seek legal counsel.
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I'm not a NY attorney, but I do quite a bit of family court work. I think the first step you need to take is to engage in family counseling (not to include your mother-in-law unless recommended by the counselor) for the well being of your daughter and to determine a reasonable approach to handling the issue concerning your mother-in-law.