Can I get a "do it yourself" divorce when my husband is contesting he be allowed only supervised visitation of our daughter

While it is never a good idea to "do it yourself" with such serious allegation of child abuse, it sounds like you have no choice. You may want to check on the prosecution in order to determine if a "no contact" order will be part of the crimminal plea or sanction. The Dept. of Children and Families is another resource, but their involvement may lead to unforseen consequences. Check and see if your circuit has a self help center which may provide some guidence. You may try to return to legal aid to see if they will re consider your case or direct you to a pro bono attorney.

Unfortunately lots of parents have made wrongful allegations of child abuse in order to gain advantage in divorce proceedings. Be prepared for professionals and courts to be skepical and not to take your allegation on face value and understand that you are seeking resources which, although available, are limited. Good luck.