what are my options if store security says im banned but no trespass order was signed by them or the police?
Personal Injury Lawyer
A store is private property like any other. Commercial establishments are open for commerical purposes. But, without knowing the facts behind your one line posting, it is true that the owner of private property has the right to exclude entry to those who they wish to exclude.
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Criminal Defense Attorney
If store security told you that you are banned, then you can be arrested if you return. They are considered to be a representative of the store. And, the ban does not need to be in writing.
If you disagree with the ban, then you should write a letter to the manager explaining the situation and get his written agreement that you can come to the store (and carry it with you when you enter.)