What does it say in the funeral contract? What are the cemeteries rights in the event of a breach of contract? While this sounds like a repulsive practice, the cemetery really has very little leverage in a case like this, where they have already provided all services. They deserve to be paid for their services, just like anyone else.
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I encourage your family to decide which of you is going to deal with this and then proactively work with cemetery. They may be responsive to payment arrangements and working this out, rather than expending additional time. It is important to remain in communication and pay as agreed.
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