I have a 14 yr old son whose father has had primary residency since he was five, due to me moving to another part of the state. my son has been living with me since Sept. of 2008 without the courts permission. His father has petitiioned the court to get him back but my son does not want to live there and says he is going to run away again if the courts make him. At what age can he decide which parent to live with?
I since have moved back to the same town in which his dad lives so he didnt have to change schools.
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The law regarding a child's 'right' to choose which parent to live with is murky, and varies considerably by state and jurisdiction. Although not a standard by any means, many states in the last couple decades have begun to give 'consideration' to a child's declaration of custodial preference when the child reaches the age of twelve or thirteen. The judge is normally given almost unlimited latitude in whether or not he or she listens to a child and how much weight to give to the child's wishes. In short, there is no specific "age". The judge will decide based on a best interest of the child standard.
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