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At 12 years old can a child make the decision on which parent he/she wants to live with?

Milwaukee, WI |

I am trying to get my two children 50/50 placement with my ex wife, she doesn't want to give up the money I pay her. I am in the process of filling out the paperwork to hopefully have placement changed to 50/50. Someone told me, once a child turns 12, it can be up to them which parent he or she wants to live with. Is this correct?

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  1. No, a child cannot decide what is in his or her best interest.

    There is no magic age when children get to decide where to live. The best interest of the child is the standard.

    The law regarding a child's 'right'* to choose which parent to live with is murky, and varies considerably by State and jurisdiction. The judge in most States, not the child, makes the decision based on the best interest of the child. Although not a standard by any means, many States have begun to give 'consideration' to a child's declaration of custodial preference when the child reaches the age of twelve or thirteen, sometimes fourteen. The judge is normally given almost unlimited latitude in whether or not she or he listens to a child and how much weight to give to the child's wishes. In short, there is no specific "age" but the younger the less likely for a judge to give the stated preference much weight.

    See a local lawyer.

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    Online none of your documents can be viewed. Get a lawyer in your locale. Too many variable exist to predict the future. Good luck to you. I am in Chicago. I do not practice in WI.

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