This doesn't make a lot of sense. Your obligation to pay child support is based on your income and mother's income. If your income is less or non-existent, you should apply for a modification to the proper amount. That can be done at the local Child Support Enforcement Agency which issued the order. But so long as you are able, you will have an obligation to pay support for your minor children. Your failure to have a relationship with your children is considered to be your fault since your ability to have parenting time with them would be enforced by the juvenile court or family court which has jurisdiction over them. If mother doesn't cooperate, do it over top of her, with the court's assistance. As to where they are, the Child Support Enforcement Agency surely knows. So if you move to modify your support obligation, you too can find out.
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