Married 23 years. Moved out 3 months ago. He has a 401K (convinced me I didn't need one years ago). My question is I know I'm entitled to 1/2, right? But he has loan against it. Which he wasted or put into the house for remodeling. My questions are
Am I entitled to the total value of the 401k or just the value less the loan amount?
Also am I entitled to 1/2 of his employer pension? He has about 13 years till retirment.
Also the bills are in both names but his income is about 3 x what I make. One teenage child that wants to stay with his father because he is mad at me. I will seek joint custody. If there was infidelity 10+ years ago on his part can that still be used a cause of the divorce?
