A woman will take a half her husband’s properties and 401k after divorcing? What is the difference to have children? And what is the difference the properties still under mortgage? How about the properties belong to the husband before they got married?
Divorce / Separation Lawyer
These are all questions you should discuss in detail with a local divorce attorney. If there is property to divide, pensions and 401k accounts to deal with, perhaps through QDROs, and a question of pre-marriage property, this is a case almost certainly too complicated to handle on your own.