I recently was involved with a DUI and am in the trial process now. I disclosed this to my employer, he shared it with a co-worker of mine via an email forward. She then shared with several others, including her husband. My employer may be able to maintain that the person with whom he shared has a hybrid role in our office which includes some HR responsibilities, but this not true. My questions are:
1. Does he have the right to share this information that was disclused to him in private, especially when I specifically asked him not to say anything to anyone as the matter was not resolved?
2. Does she have the right to filter this information down to other co-workers that have absolutely no reason to know at all?
I feel like my privacy has been violated and I am embarrassed.
Your emplyer can share the personal information about you with whoever needs to know in order for them to run their business, including HR personnel.
As for the HR person sharing this information, the same rule would go for them.
You may be able to argue that you told your employer the bare miniumum required to explain your absence, and they could have done the same, while keeping your DUI private, but this is arguable.
The practical problem of turning this into a lawsuit, or even a claim for a lawsuit, is that it magnifies the disclosure (besides costing you legal fees). What's being said about your DUI trial is true (presumably), so this would be a privacy claim and not a defamation claim. You'd have to repeat these facts, which you wish no one knew in the first place, and get your co-workers who had this disclosed to them become involved as witnesses, and try to quantify the damage to your reputation and your embarrassment at your co-workers finding this out. Even just sending a cease and desist letter warning your employer and anyone who knows about this not to spread it around might just result in more gossip.
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