The responses you've gotten to this question are excellent. I concur that you will want to have a lawyer help you with this because problems with service are always much, much more complicated than they first appear.
Because you live in Lake Oswego, I want to supplement the information you've been given by telling you a couple of points that are unique to Oregon.
You will need to obtain an order from the Court allowing you to make service on your wife "by alternative method." Oregon...
You don't seem to know what a judgment is, or when or how it should be filed. Based only on what you've written, I'd suspect you're unaware of the meaning and the legal effect of any of the paperwork you have been filing with the Court.
I don't know why you would put your present and future interests at risk by acting as your own lawyer if you have no idea of what you're doing. Before you do another thing you should see a lawyer.
Dear Long Beach,
I can't advise you on California law or court procedures because I'm only a lawyer in a neighboring state, but I'm guessing that civil procedure is going to be at least similar everywhere.
Generally, I don't think a court would draft a default judgment for the prevailing party. Usually, a lawyer drafts the judgment and submits it to the court, with a request that the judge sign it.
If you're a party and you want the judgment to be entered, you should call the court or an...