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  • I just got served papers for custody of my daughter from my daughters father!

    I just got serverd papers from my ex to get full custody of our daughter I stopped having him see her because he was abusive and I had a restraining order against him he's parents did pick her up from when she was 1 to 3 she's almost 6 from 3 to 6...

    Reid’s Answer

    Speak with an attorney in your local area immediately (found either through the CA Bar or through AVVO). Once you are served the papers, the time you have to file a response in court begins to run and it will take some time to find an attorney you trust and can work with, get the money needed for a retainer, and get him/her the information they need to help you. If you do not have funds, there may be low-cost options through the CA Bar or some sort of legal aid assistance in your area.

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  • If my wife and i are sexually active and she has sent pictures and video of sexual acts can i stop her divorce?

    My wife filed for divorce. Since then we have been sexually active with each other and she has even sent pornographic pictures and vido of herself to me. Is this enough to stop her divorce or get us into counseling to try and save our marriage?

    Reid’s Answer

    My colleague is right: Speak with an attorney in your area who handles divorces. Courts assume that parties to a divorce are no longer engaging in any sort of relationship, or that the relationship is very nasty and bitter. It also depends on what was in the divorce petition she filed with the court, "the marriage is impossible to fix" or something along those lines. Engaging in sexual acts may be something that would tip the court to suggest counseling or mediation to see if this can be reconciled. Speaking with a TX lawyer would be best for you.

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  • Can the courts help me make sure my son will be able to come to the hospital when his baby brother is born? Ex won't let him.

    I have sole custody, and my ex has visitation rights to our 4 year old. This summer my ex is able to get summer visitation for the first time. That is 4 weeks in the summer, whenever he wants, just has to let me know by April. I am now married for...

    Reid’s Answer

    You may want to consult with an attorney in your local area (either found on your own or through the TX Bar's referral service). If a child is with another parent during their granted visitation time, courts are loathe to step in and compel someone to do something unless that parent is doing an activity that endangers the child's safety or well-being. You want to share this experience with your son, which is a great thing, but if he is with your ex during his time, your ex may well have the right to deny such a request. There's little that a court would find as a basis to act in this case because he is not doing anything wrong by choosing his allotted time. Your best bet would be to work it into your planning for the newborn and seeing what can happen. Your older son will be able to enjoy his new brother after the birth and it won't diminish his bonding with the new one. Don't let your ex dictate that.

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  • How can I take custody of my girlfriend from her abusive grandparents?

    My girlfriend has been in the care of her grandparents since the death of her mother. These people are abusive both physically and verbally to her. I'm horribly worried that something will happen if i don't do something soon for her. We have a ver...

    Reid’s Answer

    Please try to understand that your age is something that will run into a lot of skepticism and questioning if and when you find an attorney in your area to speak with. You may be 18 soon and you may consider yourself mature for your age, that can be true, but a court of law is going to be hard-pressed to willingly consider transferring guardianship over a minor to her boyfriend, a relative stranger when compared to the family members who have been taking care of her. They are more likely to be swayed by her family's side in their likely argument that this is a teenager thing and what she claims is abusive may be a form of "tough love". I am not weighing on the merits of your claim of abuse, if she is actually being abused or not, but that's what you will encounter.

    If she is still a minor, in the eyes of the law, she is going to remain with the grandparents absent some substantial evidence to support your claims of abuse. If she is going to turn 18 sometime soon, your best option would be to wait until she turns 18 as well. That way, she is an adult in the eyes of the law and can make her own choices.

    If you really feel strongly about this matter, though, there are many attorneys on this site who practice in TX and post here often. Perhaps a colleague will direct you to other resources that may help you more specifically.

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  • I was served with contempt of court papers for moving more than 60 miles away and broke the parenting plan.

    I had not received a copy of the divorce decree or parenting plan. I was unaware of the constrictions of the plan. His work schedule conflicts with her school schedule, i have had primary custody of her since birth she is now 6. Do i need to compl...

    Reid’s Answer

    I'm not sure what the general overall proceeding is (i.e. a divorce, modification of custody) but there may have been language in the paperwork you did receive that states that the parties are not to move more than 60 miles distant from the other party's home without written permission of the court or giving notice to the other party to allow them the chance to contest this move in court. Once the proceedings start, there are limits that are put in place to protect things (like assets, property, or children in this case). You may have inadvertently have broken a restriction on moving so, as my colleague has indicated, take your paperwork to an attorney to discuss what has happened.

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  • Can one loose child custody due to loss of job, income, and unable to provide needed therapy for an autistic child?

    My child's bio Dad lost his job in Jan 2013. I just found out this month, November. He didn't provide this info to me nor the courts. He has taken me to Court several times this year. We just completed a custody Eval. I got screwed. Dad was dish...

    Reid’s Answer

    Get with an attorney in your area if you are not already represented by one. The fact that "you got screwed" tells us that there may be more legal circumstances than what you indicated above that may be best addressed with an attorney who is more intimately familiar with your circumstances.

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  • Can my friend get her child's custody back from the man she thought was the dad but after DNA results ended up not being the dad

    My friend was intimate with a man for a night, she became pregnant. At that same time she was seeing another man who she had a serious relationship with. She thought the father was the one night stand man. She works in field work and would have my...

    Reid’s Answer

    If he has custody awarded to him by the court, she needs to seek a court modification to the award. It becomes a bit muddled because of her situation and what she signed back then. She should speak with an attorney who can provide her with some assistance as soon as she can. Her immigration status will not be too much of a factor but it would be best dealt with someone who does family law and has some experience with immigration law too.

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  • My girlfriend went on vacation with my 2 year old son for 1 month, now she wont come home with my son, can i get custody in NJ?

    Me and her had a verbal agreement for her to only go down for a vacation for 1 month and to come back home. she said only 1 month. she had this all plan to lied to me. She called me and said she will not come back with my son. Will i be able to ha...

    Reid’s Answer

    NJ, as the state where the child has resided for the last 6 months, will have jurisdiction if you try to file in court for a custody order. Please see an attorney in your local area as soon as you can to start the process.

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  • Is it illegal for a 18 year old to date a 16 year old girl and they hug and kiss and hold hands????

    just asking

    Reid’s Answer

    If you have sex with this girl (as you are probably wondering), it is a misdemeanor, punishable by up to one year in county jail and potentially carrying the requirement that you register as a sex offender. PDAs are not going to be punished as they are a natural consequence of being in a relationship and going out with someone. Hope this helps.

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