There is no actual set amount of time that equates to reasonable, but if the other parent is only calling to chat quickly with the child and it is not every hour of the day for long periods of time and it does not disturb the child's activities on an ongoing basis, it would seem that is reasonable.
It appears from the information you provided that the Court has already considered what happens if one party moves. In your case, it happened and there are court orders in effect to cover the move and the parenting plan. You only need to file papers with the court when there is a change to the parenting plan that has not been considered in the current orders and you want to make the court aware of this or if you are requesting a new order.
For jurisdiction over the children, the county in which you file must be the county in which the children have resided for six months. If no children are involved, then if he lives in another county, he could possibly have filed there. It could be he got the card from someone he knows and was just asking the attorney for advice. It seems you are at the stage where divorce may be an option and it is important that you discuss your options with a divorce lawyer to either prepare for your...
Unfortunately, you cannot do a 50% parenting plan when you have school-aged children and live in another state. However, there are ways to maximize time. One option is to have the children for the majority of the school vacations. Arizona is not that far from San Diego so you can see the children on alternate weekends during the school year and if you can come to San Diego during the week then you can spend time with them after school and help them with homework, take them to sports...
You should bring the issues to the attention of the mediator. Their goal is to provide a parenting plan that is in the best interests of the child. The mediator should be made aware of the current parenting plan so they can then see if a change from supervised visits to unsupervised visits is warranted and if so to what extent. mention the classes that he has not completed so the mediator take take that into consideration. Remember, it is the judge who makes the ultimate decision.
You need to wait 6 months from the time the divorce petition is filed before legally being divorced. You can solve any remaining issues prior to the 6 months, but you cannot be divorced sooner than 6 months.
You can return this matter to court so a judge can hear about the circumstances you have mentioned. An attorney can help file the motion with the court and prepare declarations to provide your evidence to the judge.
The answer to this question depends upon who has legal custody of the child. If you have sole legal custody, then more than likely you can enroll your child at any school, unless there is a separate order in regards specially to school enrollment. If you have joint legal custody then your soon to be ex has the same ability as you do to enroll her in school and the two of you need to discuss the situation and agree as to what school she attends.
You can contact an attorney who has a background in custody and visitation issues and if you and your ex are in agreement, they can draft a custody plan you can have court ordered. If you are not in agreement then the same attorney can help represent your thoughts regarding the best interests of the child in court.
The court does place a lot of weight on the report from FCS. If you do not agree with the report you can raise the concerns with the judge during your hearing. If you have safety concerns for the children then it is important to bring evidence of such concerns to the hearing so the judge can understand the seriousness of the issues.