Luckily, two great attorneys nearby you have responded to your inquiry. I recommend contacting them, and if they are unable to assist you, you can use Avvo's "Find a Lawyer" tab to research other attorneys in your area. Good luck.
If your divorce is complicated or new issues have arisen that require more work, your attorney may be asking for more money in order to put in the extra time needed to complete the process. That being said, if you feel that she is intentionally dragging things out, you may want to consider getting another attorney. Before taking any action, I recommend contacting your current attorney to discuss your concerns. Good luck.
Great question. Attorneys can practice in whatever areas they would like to practice in. Even though your friend's attorney may not describe himself as a divorce attorney, he may indeed have experience handling divorce cases. That being said, if you're sensing his knowledge of the area is limited, you should research experienced divorce attorneys in your area. Attorneys who specialize in divorce are often very knowledgeable about this particular area of the law. Please see the link below...
I'm not sure what you mean when you ask "is it considered a divorce." The decision of whether to divorce your spouse is a personal one that only you can make. If you decide to move forward or learn more about the divorce process, contact an experienced divorce attorney in your area. There are some fantastic attorneys on Avvo in your area. Best of luck.
You can certainly file for a restraining order and a divorce. I encourage you to take immediate action to protect yourself. Here is a link to a list of resources in Alameda County: http://www.acfjc.org/files/04192011DVGuide.pdf. See the top of page 2 for a list of local legal aid organizations that should be able to help you. Good luck.
Whether or not the Court will award your spouse Attorney Fees depends on various factors, including whether you are able to pay for her legal representation. Based on the facts you have provided, it sounds like it may not be appropriate to award Attorney Fees to your spouse. That being said, I recommend contacting an experienced divorce attorney for a full consultation. Good luck.