The relocation statute is UCA 30-3-37. Assuming your decree provides for the statutory provisions for relocation, the statute provides specific instructions as to what the parent-time is and how it operates. It also addresses costs for transportation for parent-time. The following is a link to the statute: http://le.utah.gov/code/TITLE30/htm/30_03_003700.htm
If the decree did not change the provision that divided the deduction for taxes, then that provision is still in effect, and your ex would still be permitted to claim the deduction every other year for taxes. Your decree may contain a common provision though that your ex must be current on support obligations in that tax year in order to be able to claim the deduction, so you'll want to closely read the decree for that point of further clarification.
It may be a law and motion calendar for Judges and Commissioners. Those are the time slots that you can schedule hearings with the court on motions that are filed, like a motion for temporary orders. Some more context to your question would help to be able to give you a more definitive answer.
One of your options is to file the divorce, and ask for temporary orders from the court. A domestic court commissioner can order that you be allowed to live in the marital residence and he be required to leave while the case is ongoing, which is what we call temporary orders.
If abuse is taking place, then it may be appropriate to call the police, or seek a protective order. Many law firms, like mine, will offer free consultations to discuss your options in greater detail.
You can and should request that he pay your attorneys fees when you file for divorce. But requesting attorneys fees doesn't mean the court will award you those fees.
If he makes a lot more money than you, and you have been married for at least a few years, you would be entitled to alimony. You need to get the divorce filed right away, and file a motion for temporary orders and ask for temporary alimony.
You should be able to contact ORS directly, and they can provide you with an arrears balance. They should also be able to provide you with a written statement outlining the arrears. ORS should have a case worker assigned to the case who has all of that information. You may also want to make sure that they have your correct address so that if they are sending statements, you will actually receive them.
While not consummating the marriage can be grounds for an annulment, after three years the courts will probably be reluctant to grant one. Getting an annulment in Utah is usually fairly difficult to get.
Part of the answer depends on whether you have any minor children. Assuming that you do not have minor children, the answer depends on where your primary residence is. You have two houses, but one of them will be your primary residence. Utah has jurisdiction over a divorce if one of the spouses has been an actual and bona fide resident of the state and county where the action is brought (U.C.A. 30-3-1(2)) for at least three (3) months prior to the commencement of the action. If hour husband...
Sounds like you have an attorney, so the first step would be to meet with that attorney.
In my experience, if the court has not yet signed the Decree, they will likely count your answer, and the case will proceed forward as a contested divorce.