You need to file an objection to the claim. The mortgage company then has to prove the amounts claimed before the court. You need a lawyer on this, I you retained one to file the 13, talk to him, if not, hire one.
Unless she reaffirmed the debt, which I doubt given the circumstances you describe, the debt is discharged as to her. I don't think the bank has to remove her name from the note but it is barred by the discharge from any collection activity whatsoever. It would be a good move by the bank to remove her name to avoid mistakes in the future which could subject the bank to penalties.
Once formal charges are filed against you, the State is the Plaintiff as represented by the Prosecuting Attorney. The lady is only a witness at that point, an important witness, but still only a witness. Often a Prosecutor will dismiss if the lady asks or refuses to testify, but it is the prosecutors decision to make, not the ladys' decision.
The money was held in trust, otherwise it would have been considered an asset which the trustee could have taken. The tenants moving out is a post-filing event which triggers the lease agreement requirement for an accounting for damages and unpaid rent, if you have such a written agreement, and refund of the balance. Regardless of whether you have a written lease or not, state landlord tenant laws have to be abided by. I am assuming by your question that you still have the rental property and...
If you filed the tax returns and the taxes are more than three years old they can be discharged BUT if a tax lien has been filed, that is not discharged and the lien is not just on real property but also on ALL your personal property as well. So, if you have a tax lien, you are still going to have to deal with the IRS. If you truly have few assets and limited income future, you may get a decent compromise settlement with the IRS, but you need skilled representation to assist you.
You state that you have the title. Have you taken it to DMV to be reissued without any lien-holder on it? If not I would do that right away. The PIF letter with release and the fact that you have the title in your possession is enough. Check with the bank to see if the $1,100.00 was ever drawn out. If not, the company may still have a claim for the payment but would have no security interest in the vehicle, so no repossession.
From your brief description of what happened, it sounds like the police investigated by never charged you with a crime. A mere investigation will not show up on any records. If there was a juvenile charge, that record would be sealed and it would take very special circumstances to get a court to unseal them. It looks like this was handled informally just based on what you reported.
Yes, it is possible. The deciding factor is who appears to be more credible to the court or to a jury if it is a jury trial. the state has a high burden of proof, that being "beyond a reasonable doubt" so any evidence or witnesses supporting your version of the facts should be used. Enter a plea of not guilty and a pre-trial conference will be set. At this conference is your chance to discuss the case frankly with the prosecutor to try to wok something out. What is said there will not be...
You need to talk to a lawyer who is well versed in family and custody law. Jurisdiction will be determined under the Uniform Child Custody Act which basically says that the state where the child has lived for six months has jurisdiction. Violations of the divorce decree are not tolerated by the court but there are many factors that go into determining the "best interests of the child". Again, talk to an attorney, there are remedies available.