Follow Attorney Kremer's advice and call the Elder Abuse Hotline. Your name will be kept confidential. Often seniors who are being abused by a family member are afraid to speak out, but Adult Protective Services has experience handling these issues.
In every jurisdiction in which I have worked or needed documents notarized, a notary can not notarize a document in which they, their employer or a family member has any interest. The question then becomes what constitutes an interest. The quick way to find out would be to contact the Secretary of State.
If you believe she is being financially exploited by the grandkids, report the matter to Adult Protective Services. They will investigate. I would be concerned that by making these gifts your friend may be rendering herself ineligibile for Medicaid if she needs to go to the nursing home and apply for public benefits anytime during the next five years.
None of these diagnoses, by themselves, would render your mother incompetent to sign documents. It is a matter of degree. Her statement that it is too late may be a reflection of her depression. While she may refuse to go see an elder law attorney, most experienced elder law attorneys make house calls.
Under federal law a revocable trust is treated as an available asset so it won't protect the house. Certain irrevocable trusts, however can do the job, but you have to give up ma lot and then wait 5 years before making application for Medicaid. There are other ways of accomplishing what you want, depending upon state law, but the cost of doing it wrong would be great. Your best course of action would be to consult with an elder law attorney experienced in Medicaid planning in your state. Use...
The likelihood of finding an American attorney who is familiar with elder law in Italy is remote. The issue is whether there is a filial responsibility law in Italy and whether it can be enforced in the US. Since your father is an Italian citizen, I suggest you contact the Italian embassy. I will change the practice area of your question to get it before attorneys would do international law. Perhaps they have an answer.
You can either petition the court for guardianship, which will no doubt be fought by your siblings, or you can report your concerns to Adult Protective Services who will investigate and take action if they determine elder abuse has occurred.
I person should never count on funeral instructions contained in their Will to be followed. Think about it. If you say you want buried in your Will, that document might not be found until after the funeral and if they cremate you it is too late to do anything about it. Even if you tell your wishes to all your friends and family they may forget. The safest and best way to handle your funeral and make your wishes known is to go to the funeral home and purchase a pre-paid funeral plan. The funeral...
In order to have a successful claim against the estate you will probably need to have had a written care agreement in place, otherwise the heirs can claim you acted out of love and affection. You need to make an appointment and consult with a probate attorney.