Many criminal defense lawyers, such as myself are willing to offer free consultations concerning your legal needs. Take advantage of them now and you can be prepared should any charges be filed against you.
Resisting arrest can get ugly depending on the facts--of which we have almost none in this case. You can be facing up to a year in jail and other consequences that could keep you under the justice system for several years. This can be the case regardless of your being a first time offender. The good news is that a criminal defense attorney can help to minimize any or all of these potential results. I do encourage you to contact a criminal defense attorney quickly, so they can work in your behalf.
You are taking the proper approach in fully disclosing your prior conviction. However the employer did (and where they did) their check can sometimes give inconsistent results, but that does not mean that something is wrong or that there is a problem. If they can't find it then good for you. But don't let that lull you into a false sense of security. One department may find you in a split second. Don't let them be the one that you decide not to mention the conviction after they ask. Good luck.
If there is no evidence that you are being intimate with your boyfriend, then there will be no problem. If you can hold on a couple of years, and you are still together, your parents can give their consent for you to marry, but based on your facts, I'm guessing they are not to keen on doing that. Other options include emancipation and a court order allowing you to marry, but here again, facts don't indicate this being favorable.
Statutory Rape is not forcible rape. It is based on the law only....
Since it appears that you do not currently have an attorney, now is the time to get one. You will need to go to the hearing and your attorney will be able to handle the numbers issue from a perspective that improves your bargaining power, which could ultimately benefit you far more that yo could do yourself. Don't wait.
Get your inspection and registration as soon as possible. While you may be able to get the prosecutor to dismiss the charges anyway, the longer you wait, the less it looks you care about the issue. You want to look like it is important to you (and it should be).
If the shoplifting charge is a class b or class c misdemeanor, she will likely not be deported, if that is your concern. I am also making an assumption that the theft "over 50 dollars" is not over $500. If an alien is convicted of a crime (involving moral turpitude) committed within 5 years after they became a resident, and that crime is for a crime that a year or longer may be imposed, they may be deported.
To be as simple as possible for you, if in fact your case was dismissed, then you should be able to, (and definitely want to) have is expunged. While there is more money and time considerations involved, when accomplished, you can legally answer NO on an application to even being arrested for DUI. I would suggest that you contact an attorney that can help you understand the considerations with getting an expunction.